Basic Divorce Mediation Training Sample Program

Day 1

9:45-12:00 A.
  • Hands-on Exercise: Conflict, Competition and Cooperation
  • The World of the Mediator
  • Game of Life
  • World of One, World of Two
11:15 15 minute break
12:00-1:00 B. Conflict Resolution Theory & Divorce Mediation

  1. History and Development
  2. Types and Styles
  3. Therapists, Lawyers, Mediators — Styles, Differences & Problem Solving Techniques
1:00-2:00 Lunch
2:00-3:00 C. Role and Function of the Mediator, with Emphasis on the Initial Session – Panel Discussion
3:00-4:15 D. Role Play — The Child Centered Couple
4:15 15 minute break
4:15-5:45 E. Role Play — The Financial Couple
5:45-6:00 F. Summary

Day 2

8:45-10:30 A. Regression, Family Life Cycle and the Divorce Adjustment Process
10:30 15 minute break
10:30-11:30 B. Reframing Reality, Marriage & Divorce: Marital Dances & Systems Theory
11:30-12:00 C. Custody Law

  1. Historical context
  2. Uniform Marriage and Divorce Act
  3. Custody options
12:00-1:00 Lunch
1:00-1:30 D. Developmental Issues

  1. Telling children
  2. Wallerstein’s stages
1:30-3:00 E. Role Play #1 with Harry & Wendy — 1st Session An Ambivalent Couple
3:00 15 minute break
3:15-4:15 F. Mediator Bias – Panel Discussion

  1. Definition
  2. Effect
4:15-5:15 G. Scheduling Issues, Including Role Play #2 with Harry & Wendy — 3rd Session

  1. Weekly
  2. Holidays and Vacations
  3. Summer
  4. Special Days
5:15-5:45 H. Non-Scheduling Issues

  1. Medical
  2. Child care
  3. Educational
  4. Children with special needs
  5. Religious issues
  6. Developmental decisions
5:45-6:00 I. Summary

 


Day 3

8:45-10:30 A. Divorce Law — Equitable Distribution

  1. Marital vs. Separate Property
  2. Equal vs. Equitable Distribution
10:00-11:00 B. Pensions, IRA’s, Social Security — how much are they worth?
11:00 15 minute break
11:15-11:45 C. Divorce Law

  1. Easy & Hard Divorce: from Moses to movie stars
  2. The New no-Fault Divorce
  3. Will Other Grounds Matter?
11:45-12:15 D. Divorce Law — Maintenance
12:15-1:15 Lunch
1:15-2:30 E. Divorce Law — Child Support Introduction & Expense Sharing
2:30-4:30 F. Domestic Violence – Concepts and Screening
4:30-5:45 G. Child Support – understanding and using the New York & the New Jersey Guidelines. Introduction to Homework.
5:45-6:00 H. Summary and closing

Day 4

8:45-10:30 A. Taxes and Divorce

  1. Exemptions and Deductions
  2. Capital Gains
  3. Tax Implications of Various Strategies
10:30-10:45 B. The Flow of Mediation
10:45-11:45 C. Memorandums of Understanding & Separation Agreements – boilerplate and hand-tailoring
11:15 15 minute break
11:30-12:15 D. Role Play #4 with Harry & Wendy — 7th Session – Equitable Distribution of Retirement Assets – fishbowl
E. Role Play #4 with Harry & Wendy — 7th Session – Equitable Distribution of Retirement Assets – Lawyers & Non-Lawyers in separate groups
12:15-1:15 Lunch
1:15-2:15 F. The High Conflict Couple – when reframing isn’t enough
2:15-3:45 G. Interpersonal Techniques in Mediation (for lawyers)
3:45 15 minute break
4:00-5:00 H. Role Play #3 with Harry & Wendy — 5th Session – Equitable Distribution issues (for lawyers)
5:00-5:45 I. Memorandums of Understanding & Separation Agreements: The ethics of working with non-lawyers and neutral drafting (for lawyers)
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2:15-3:30 G. Child Support Homework review, Spousal Maintenance, and other legal issues – question and answer time (for non-lawyers or new lawyers)
3:30 15 minute break
3:45-4:45 H. Role Play #3 with Harry & Wendy — 5th Session – Equitable Distribution issues (for non-lawyers)
5:00-5:45 I. Memorandums of Understanding & Separation Agreements: Working with lawyers and drafting memos (for non-lawyers)
5:45-6:00 J. Summary

Day 5

8:45-10:00 A. Ethical Issues & Contact with Others

  1. Attorneysy
  2. Psychotherapists
  3. Other Professionals
  4. Family Members
  5. ACR & NYS Council Guidelines
  6. Mediation Organizations
10:00-10:45 B. Central Role of “The House” in Mediation
10:45 15 minute break
11:00-12:00 C. How To Read a Tax Return
12:00-1:00 D. Lunch together as a group: How To Think Like a Mediator, not like a …
1:00-2:00 E. Role Play #5 with Harry & Wendy — 9th Session – Child Support Fish Bowl
2:00-3:45 F. Role Play #6 with Harry & Wendy — Last Session

  1. Taxes: Exemptions, Deductions & Prior Returns
  2. Predictable future problems
2:45 15 minute break
3:45-5:30 G. Small Group discussions: Setting Up a Mediation Practice — Fees, Forms, Insurance, Accreditation, etc.
5:30-6:00 H. Summary, Review, Closing and Evaluation

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